There is a story I heard a while ago that has
helped me to deal with impermanence and change. It is about an American tourist who went to
visit a rabbi. When he went to the rabbi’s home, he was surprised to see the
room filled with books, a table, a chair and a bed. The traveling tourist asked
him, ‘Where are your things?’ The rabbi
replied, ‘Where is yours?’ The puzzled
American replied, ‘But I am just a visitor here. I’m only passing through.’ The rabbi then said, ‘So am I.’
Each
time I remember this story, it pulls me back into awareness of the things I’m grasping
on to so tightly. I’ve held many material
possessions, and have been guilty of hoarding physical things and emotionally feeling
possessive of a certain person or relationships. When I feel stressed it triggers my emotional
eating habits or another form of over-collecting is to fill my schedule with too
many activities and projects. All forms of hoarding.
Researchers
estimate about 2-5% of the population deals with some type of hoarding disorder
with difficulty parting with material possessions in their home. I believe our
home is an expression of how who we are and what we are feeling. The Japanese organizing consultant Marie Kondo
is popular today because of her methods to de-cluttering your household and
life.
Similarly,
I first learned of the DanShaRi concept from Hideko Yamashita when she came to
New York for a lecture. Not knowing what
to expect it turned out to be one of the most enriching lectures I have been
to. DanShaRi written in with three
characters means to refuse, to discard and to separate. Hideko says, ‘it is deciding,
releasing and leaving stressful situations and things behind and about renewing
the heart space and transforming the mind.’
Have
you ever thought about those past awards, trophies and plaques you have kept for
years in your home? Or how about the gifts from a loved one or past
relationships that you don’t really use any longer? While these items are cherished
keepsakes of ours, is it a re-occurring symbol that is conditioning us to hold
on to our past? In the lecture, Hideko Yamashita articulated that if we are not
using our things or appreciating them, we are not giving it life. Yet with our
tokens of honor, if we cling too tightly, we may be interfering with our growth
process to bring about new experiences and accomplishments.
Impermanence
is the change agent that urges us to release the possessions that are already
past due and to take inventory of what it is we truly value in our life. We are
the owners that decide how we are exerting our consumption and holding power. In
coming to terms with a self-care solution, I would say to evaluate your set
values that are inherent and choose what will free your highest Self expression.
In
closing, here is a quote by Thich Nhat Hahn.
‘Letting go gives us
freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If in our heart we
still cling to anger, anxiety and possessions, -we cannot be free.’
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